Your Life Purpose
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out whyMark Twain
We hear so much about great life ‘purposes’, the people who achieve the wild and the wonderful things, the extraordinary achievers and achievements. We applaud and admire them (and there’s nothing wrong with that), but we can’t help but feel somewhat inadequate to them though. It’s almost as it we see ourselves as an inferior being because we perceive our achievements are not the out-of-this-world Nobel-award worthy achievements.
Or so we think….
But what if we changed our thinking around a bit and applauded what thus far we have considered the ordinary, every day things? What if we valued the roles that have been previously been so undervalued? What if we applauded being the stay-at-home parent? What if we celebrated the work of the cashier/cleaner/shelf-stacker etc.? What if we acknowledged the effort of the chronically ill person in getting through the week? What a game changer that would be.
There are two things we do as a society that we really need to stop so as to help this mindset change:
Comparing our journey to the journey of others:
This is a terrible habit. What we are not considering is our journeys are so different. Just because the destination is similar, does not mean the journey is. We all have our own unique mix of skills and experiences, which when mixed with the potential destination, makes for a very unique journey. But we don’t look at it like that do we? We constantly compare our journey to our family/friends/colleagues and then berate ourselves when we perceive our progress to be less than theirs.
Why do we do that to ourselves? We are being so unfair to ourselves when we do that, and we really need to just stop doing that.
Dismissing our Achievements:
The other thing we do that we need to stop doing is playing down or even dismissing what we have achieved. We should be proud of whatever we do. Because we do the best we can, with what we have, at any given time.
So, if your to-do list has two things, and your friend/neighbour/colleague has 12 things on their their list – why does it matter? They have their list, and you have yours. This is your journey and that is theirs.
And please don’t use the phrase ‘I’m just a….(insert title)’…..this is one of the most common ways that people put themselves down. You are never ‘just’ anything – you are something! So when someone tells me they are ‘just a housewife’ I remind them that they are a housewife, not ‘just’ a housewife! We really need to start valuing every role, every job, and every person’s contribution. And we also need to stop apologising for the role we play in life.
You are fulfilling a valid role, your existence matters.
Maybe you cannot see that, but trust me, it matters.
Not everyone is destined to be a CEO, a great inventor or an accomplished artist. Not everyone is destined to work 9-5 outside the home. And not everyone is destined to be a parent. Maybe, just maybe, you are destined to be exactly who you are?
As Dr Seuss says, ‘there is no-one alive who is youer than you‘ ….and what a great life purpose that is……